tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-44275386081106352942024-03-13T13:56:53.501-05:00Letters from Gehenna: The World on a Slant"There's no time," the Director said, "that I can see any assimilation of Gehenna into Alliance ... without the inclusion of humans who think at an angle. You can tape them. You can try to change them. If you don't understand what they are now, how do you understand them when they've come another hundred years, another two hundred on the same course?"
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- <i>Forty Thousand in Gehenna</i>, C. J. CherryhDw3t-Hthrhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11584245136407694660noreply@blogger.comBlogger426125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-91146105277093961222015-01-29T14:51:00.000-05:002015-01-29T18:26:34.572-05:00Followup on Venting a Bit and InvisibilityI actually went and read through all the thread comments after the comment I linked on <a href="http://www.scottaaronson.com/blog/?p=2091">the other blog post I mentioned yesterday</a>, and one of the subthreads of discussion bugged me enough to make another post.<br />
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Okay so: two positions were put forth by people, which were "women are barraged by unwanted attention so maybe don't contribute to the firehose" and "women want to be hit on but only by the ones we want" and...<br />
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I don't exist in the middle of this. I'm sort of at both/neither.<br />
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One of the reasons I feel invisibled by a lot of the discussion I've seen around this is that my actual preference in attraction is the nerdguys (see also the <a href="http://lettersfromgehenna.blogspot.com/2007/07/bodies-3-revelation.html">"Where are all the geeky boys with nice shoulders?" complaint</a>).<br />
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And that that doesn't mean that I am universally and undiscriminately interested in such.<br />
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Another one of the reasons is that basically all the positive relationships I've had with men were ones where I was the pursuer. (There may be exceptions but I can't think of one right now.) Partly because I am in fact interested in the geek type and the geek subtypes I tend to find appealing are less likely to approach.)<br />
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So all of these conversations that just assume that women can wait and be approached by someone they want fail in several directions, and all of these conversations that assume that women <i>do</i> get relationships, somehow, magically happening, without asking, those assume that people like me don't exist.<br />
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(Which makes me entirely unsympathetic to the "I have to approach people!" Yes, it's hard, and if you want to have a relationship with <i>that person over there</i> the only sure shot you get is going and seeing if that's possible somehow. At least that's the reality I've got to work with, and when I see people complaining about it it feels a bit like seeing people complain that if they try to put things in midair they fall down.)<br />
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But I'm not the timid sort who never got approached. Not entirely. I would rather have been that than what I got, I think.<br />
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What I got was approached by bullies using sexuality as a weapon, by people who felt entitled to my attention, by people who thought that social association of any sort was consent to a romantic relationship, and by people who don't respect boundaries, understand no, or figure out that maybe pinning someone down on a couch and trying to pry their clothes off might be crossing the line <i>before trying it</i>.<br />
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So my emotional response is not so much "Don't approach me if I don't find you hot" but "The ones who I find hot don't approach me; the ones who do approach me want to abuse me".<br />
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(Plus, of course, that strangers aren't hot to me, and I can't imagine how they would be, so there are whole chunks of cultural somethingorother that are wholly beyond my comprehension.)<div class="blogger-post-footer">Remember that if you read this syndicated you need to click through to leave me a comment.</div>Dw3t-Hthrhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11584245136407694660noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-150934062741092572015-01-28T11:50:00.000-05:002015-01-28T11:58:11.550-05:00Just Venting A BitThe problem with coming across things through link roundups is that it's often too late to join the conversation. Which leaves me wanting to reply to <a href="http://freethoughtblogs.com/brutereason/2015/01/11/feminist-bloggers-cannot-be-your-therapists/#comment-150614">this comment</a> and not sure how to do it and so I'm taking it off here. (Initial post worth reading, but I'm sort of wanting to poke the comment, which is #35 by someone whose handle is trazan.)<br />
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I had no meaningful connections with anyone. The problem wasn’t feminism, but toxic masculinity growing up. The culture (of boys) in my school was not democratic. I’d say values were fascist. You cannot tell someone their comment really hurt. Hurting is the point. It is dangerous to show weakness or be vulnerable. At the time I thought pupils in school were like inmates in prison. I wasn’t insane and I still had enormous trouble in contact with girls.</blockquote>
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Reminds me of my experiences, yeah. Though I wouldn't say "enormous trouble in contact with girls" regarding myself - I had enormous trouble in contact with <i>people my age</i>. I was the sort of nerdy kid who could talk to adults and was hopeless at my own age. I didn't listen to the right music, I didn't know the right jokes, I didn't wear the right clothes, and on top of that I was socially anxious, withdrawn, depressed.<br />
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I learned dissociation <i>as a skill</i> in junior high school. Because the alternative was being bullied to tears and seeing the victory on their faces. I also stayed late - for Math Team, or with manufactured reasons - and worked in the school store so that I wouldn't have to get on the school bus. I would rather wait for the activity bus or just walk the two miles home (a mile of that along a state highway with no sidewalks, by the way) than deal with humans. Particularly those humans.<br />
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They only got physical once. I put the perp on the floor of the bus, and afterwards my sharp elbows became Our Little Joke, right? We're all in this together, ha ha ha, we'll stay a foot or two away from you because bitches are crazy amirite, and nothing else changed. Did I mention? That bullying was sexual. The 'got physical' was copping a feel.<br />
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On the other side of the gender line, I was invited to a party once. A slumber party. Packed up my things, delighted that there was someone who was being kind to me for once.<br />
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The address didn't exist. I wonder which of the neighboring houses belonged to that person, whether they and their friends watched out the window to see if they could spot a forlorn figure with a pillow clutched close, wandering up and down the sidewalk checking to see if there was that house number, somewhere, in the world. Eventually we gave up and my parents took me home.<br />
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The next school day... I figured that she would ask me where the fuck I was. And I was planning to apologise, to say that I couldn't find the house. Because it was probably my fault I missed the party, right?<br />
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I had one friend at that age, a boy. We hung out together primarily because neither of us had anyone else, and because as geeky kids we had enough in common to, for example, go play Tetris. And it was nice to have someone to sit and eat lunch with. (Always at the same spots at the same table, me with my back to the wall, because for all that we were the lowest kids on the local totem pole he wasn't paranoid enough to put his back to a wall.)<br />
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Then I figured out that he thought I was romantically interested in him. Which I wasn't. And I didn't know how to correct his notion that 'we hang out and play Tetris' and 'we go do things sometimes' meant 'we are an item'. He didn't touch me. He never <i>asked</i>. We had a whole additional relationship that existed solely in his head that he never, ever, ever explicitly told me about, and it turns out that that was as bad as the active bullies, because I'd thought we were at least some level of friends.<br />
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And I was desperately lonely. I hadn't felt socially comfortable in my old school - this was not long after moving - but I did have friends there, and I missed them. I missed the boy I fancied all through elementary school particularly, because he wasn't, at least in my head, anything like that. (And the couple of times we managed contact after that, he didn't show any signs of being like that.) But that was nothing to the gaping isolation and the outright hostility and the bafflement about why it was like that.<br />
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I never did figure out what was wrong with me.<br />
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<blockquote>
There were shy girls. Maybe for some of them, school was a living nightmare.
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Maybe!<br />
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This is one of the things that's gotten me about a lot of the "I had a terrible time in [junior] high school posts". Obviously. Discussions set off by <a href="https://www.blogger.com/%3C/span%3Ehttp://www.scottaaronson.com/blog/?p=2091#comment-326664">the infamous comment 171</a> have had a lot of "[junior] high school is hell for shy nerdy guys" stuff going on where I'm going, "... yes?"<br />
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And then these guys describe stuff that's about 80% my exact experience - down to the emotional-sexual frustration and the fear of being caught at it. (And here's a thing: when I was fourteen, fifteen? <i>I was creepy.</i> I stared at people I fancied and I was so sure I was being subtle and I <i>really, really wasn't</i>. But I knew they'd never want me - they were otherwise involved, I was too much younger than they were - being an accelerated student works a real hash on stuff related to sexual development at times - and anyway there was that nebulous Something Wrong With Me that I could never pin down and meant I couldn't approach anyone.)<br />
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But I look at the stories and I say "That's basically me". With less physical violence, in the cases where the stories have physical violence. With more sexual assault to make up for it. (And I'm not sure about the deliberate emotional abuse angle, both because that's harder to evaluate fairly and because it's the sort of thing people don't talk about.)<br />
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Only it's not me. Because it's a Male Story, and it's so very much tangled up in being a Male Story, with that particularly apparently Male desire for sex/relationship snarling things up as if nobody female has that sort of thing going on. (As if nobody female was ever asked "Please stop staring at me." Um. Guess I'm not, again. I'm often not.)<br />
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But these narratives often come out as "This is a super-specially male narrative" - trazan <i>doesn't</i> do this, actually, even with the 'you know, maybe things were awful for girls in a similar position to mine when I was a boy', because he's being personal, not universalising, and is at least <i>considering the possibility</i> that there might, out there, be stories like mine.<br />
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But I wish for a bit that the experience could be degendered a bit in the social narrative. "I was lonely and pining and had no friends and was afraid of terrible social consequences if I tried to change that" doesn't depend on gender presentation. At all.<br />
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(And I'm tired of the myth that this stuff doesn't happen to girls. That sex is just easy and simple for girls and women to navigate and be satisfied with. Every time I see - and there's one or two of these dirtbags in the comment thread above the comment that pinged me here - "women have total freedom and get all the satisfying sex they want, so male insecurities are wholly justified" - I just. I just.<br />
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<blockquote>
I need a respite from this noise<br />
The distant roar of static oceans<br />
Give me a haven from this bedlam<br />
And let my senses rust away<br />
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Let the wind erase me<br />
Like the memory of a kiss<br />
Let these waters take me<br />
Away from all of this...<br />
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- Assemblage 23, "Let the wind erase me"<br /></blockquote>
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I just.)<div class="blogger-post-footer">Remember that if you read this syndicated you need to click through to leave me a comment.</div>Dw3t-Hthrhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11584245136407694660noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-51656429124328670002014-08-26T14:20:00.001-05:002014-08-26T14:22:39.692-05:00A Personal History Of Games(Apparently I'm down to 'I make a post once a year or so'. I should work on that... this last year has been really shit for my being able to keep up with my posting anywhere.)
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I was, in my wanderings around the internets, linked to <a href="http://www.polygon.com/features/2013/12/2/5143856/no-girls-allowed">this article</a> on the history of the video game industry. About which I have a lot of odd thoughts.
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Scene: the early to mid 80s. I am at a friend's house, and I am playing Pac-Man. I love Pac-Man. I suspect, secretly, that I bore her, because I want to play Pac-Man, or Jumpman Junior, or other games, rather than the sorts of things she wants to do. Sometimes I deliberately suggest other things, even if I'd rather turn on the computer, because I don't want to make it sound like the only reason I come to play is because of the games.
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Scene: mid to late 80s. We have Brickles - a Mac version of Breakout - and I am extremely good at it. A single game can last over an hour.
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My father knew the people who did Space War! and we have a copy of that. He has stories about playing it with one of the members of the Grateful Dead. At that time, I didn't know who he was talking about well enough to find it impressive.
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We get the Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy game. And the clue book. I get scolded for revealing all the clues with the highlighter pen, but the book was as interesting to read as the game was fun to play.
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Scene: maybe the late 80s? I am at my aunt's house, and my (male) cousin has an Atari. He is playing Pitfall. I am rapt; the idea of computer games is immensely compelling to me. My brother has a turn. I do not. Quietly, whenever we plan a visit to that part of the family, I hope that I might have a chance to get a go at the Atari. Sometimes, I get a turn at Spy Hunter, but never enough to get good at it; we don't visit often, and clearly, the Atari is for the boys.
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Eventually, my cousin gets a Nintendo, and the Atari - and its crate of games - comes to us. I discover Joust.
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Scene: early 90s. I have a friend with some of the King's Quest games and Where In The World Is Carmen Sandiego?, who doesn't mind that sometimes I want to play.
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My brother has a friend with a Nintendo and one of the Super Mario Brothers games. Sometimes I wheedle my way into playing with them.
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The one friend I have at school after my neighbour friends move away is just as painfully nerdy as I am. Unfortunately, he thinks that being interested in playing Tetris together means we're dating.
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Scene: 1993. The whole family is trying to figure out Myst. We never really manage it.
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Scene: mid-nineties. My brother wins a colour-screen Game Gear and Sonic the Hedgehog in a raffle, because my brother is the sort of person who wins raffles. He gives me his old Game Boy for Christmas. I promptly learn how to beat Super Mario World all the way through and then get the option to beat it on <i>hard</i>. Then I do the same thing for the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles game.
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When my brother gets a Nintendo and is playing Mortal Kombat I sometimes lurk in the background and watch him play with his friends.
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It never occurs to me to ask my parents to get me a game that I would like to play.
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Girls don't play video games, you know.<div class="blogger-post-footer">Remember that if you read this syndicated you need to click through to leave me a comment.</div>Dw3t-Hthrhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11584245136407694660noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-74459201029989206672013-06-06T16:49:00.000-05:002013-06-06T16:50:15.015-05:00So, the Barbie thing.Googling "Quiet dignity" "Barbie" does not in fact turn up a new toy line, but rather references to the latest tempest in a teapot among organised science fiction writing/fandom/thing, such as <a href="http://www.betsydornbusch.com/2013/04/another-sfwa-sexist-gaffe.html">this one</a>, which quotes a rather interesting bit, a part of which is:<br />
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She has always been a role model for young girls, and has remained popular with millions of them throughout their entire lives, <b>because she maintained her quiet dignity the way a woman should.</b></blockquote>
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(<a href="http://www.nydailynews.com/life-style/health/barbie-real-womaan-anatomically-impossible-article-1.1316533">"Role model"</a> is kind of an interesting phrase, isn't it?)</div>
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But anyway, the thing that came to my mind when I saw that going around (with its associated "She's a nice girl, she doesn't dress slutty, she doesn't complain to Ken about having things tough, and so on" rhetoric) was that Barbie is <i>quiet</i> because she is <i>made of plastic</i>.</div>
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This isn't a far-fetched thing to read when a science fiction writer talks about this kind of thing, it's not like <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Stepford_Wives">robot housewives</a> aren't a staple in genre and even in the surrounding culture.</div>
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A woman should be quiet.</div>
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Like an inanimate thing.</div>
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A toy, to be specific.</div>
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Made out of a manufactured substance.</div>
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"The way a woman should."</div>
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Dear Unfortunate Implications Fairy: do you think C. J. Henderson noticed your visit at all? That was a very generous gift you provided.</div>
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(One and a half of them -<br />
I cut them with a kitchen knife every other day.)<br />
<br />
Little white pills<br />
Treating to the numbers<br />
(I never knew to notice but<br />
Maybe when you're fifteen you don't pay the right sort of attention<br />
Or maybe<br />
The kid with the dissociation problem<br />
And PTSD<br />
Is not the best at body awareness.<br />
Ya think?)<br />
They checked my throat,<br />
Little pen marks and a tape measure,<br />
And told me<br />
"Little white pills, one and a half of them."<br />
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Eventually<br />
I stopped taking them<br />
It didn't seem to matter.<br />
<br />
When I had doctors<br />
I would tell them<br />
"I took little white pills,<br />
One and a half of them.<br />
I want you to find the numbers."<br />
They found the numbers,<br />
And sent me on my way.<br />
<br />
I argued with one,<br />
"These are the wrong numbers.<br />
Here are my printouts.<br />
This is what the new standards are,"<br />
And she told me<br />
My numbers were fine.<br />
The one time they weren't,<br />
She checked again,<br />
And they'd changed.<br />
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Sometime in my late twenties<br />
I found a bentwood cane<br />
In an antique shop.<br />
"Necessary tools should be beautiful," I said.<br />
It was about the right height,<br />
Red and knobbly and wonderful.<br />
I didn't usually need it<br />
But it was nice to have.<br />
<br />
I took little white pills<br />
For a while<br />
They made me feel stoned<br />
When I changed my dose<br />
But the world didn't hurt so much<br />
In my mind<br />
And that was nice.<br />
I had to stop<br />
When I was pregnant<br />
Though.<br />
<br />
My knees never recovered<br />
From the pregnancy<br />
And stairs were hard.<br />
<br />
I got a new doctor<br />
And I said to him<br />
"I had little white pills<br />
One and a half of them<br />
And I want you to check my numbers."<br />
And he did.<br />
<br />
And he said, "I don't treat numbers,<br />
But your numbers<br />
(The lab would say they're fine<br />
Like your other doctor did)<br />
They aren't good.<br />
I would give you little white pills<br />
Just for this<br />
But look --<br />
This other number --<br />
Those are antibodies<br />
And they shouldn't be there."<br />
<br />
And he gave me little white pills.<br />
Half of one a day, to start,<br />
And I went home with a scrip<br />
And told everyone I knew<br />
"I have an autoimmune disease!"<br />
And some of them understood<br />
Why I was so happy.<br />
<br />
One day<br />
There was a truckful of rocks to unload<br />
And I took the kids outside<br />
And I helped<br />
Because I had little white pills.<br />
<br />
The little white pills<br />
Don't change my body<br />
Into a body that isn't nonconsensually suicidal<br />
But they start to take away its weapons<br />
And I didn't notice<br />
All the ways I felt better<br />
Until the little white pills<br />
Went away.<br />
<br />
And then I noticed<br />
That my knees hurt again.<br />
That I was so tired<br />
Too tired to think.<br />
I noticed<br />
All the things I knew before.<br />
(Fatigue, depression,<br />
Constipation,<br />
My appetite is gone because<br />
My metabolism is fucked<br />
It didn't go long enough<br />
For my fingernails to shatter<br />
But I bet when they grow a little more<br />
They will.)<br />
<br />
I noticed I needed that<br />
Bentwood cane<br />
And I hadn't remembered<br />
The last time<br />
I needed it to make it through a day.<br />
<br />
"I need new little white pills,"<br />
I said<br />
While trying not to want to die<br />
In a body that was trying to kill me<br />
Because somehow<br />
Having it all come back<br />
The chills<br />
The acne down my jaw<br />
The way the pain kept me awake<br />
And my ankles felt like tennis balls<br />
Of flaking, brittle skin<br />
With the fatigue<br />
And all<br />
(At least my heart didn't go flipping out<br />
Like it was doing before I got<br />
Little white pills<br />
This time<br />
That scared the fuck out of me<br />
And I couldn't say<br />
"I think I'm going to die"<br />
I have kids<br />
I can't leave them like this<br />
I couldn't even tell the doctor<br />
Which was stupid<br />
But it was all the same damn thing<br />
My life a ruin for a lack<br />
Of little white pills<br />
I suppose<br />
But I digress)<br />
It broke me<br />
Hard<br />
And I could barely get out of bed<br />
The day I was going to see the doctor<br />
Who could give me<br />
Little white pills.<br />
<br />
(My grandmother took the pills<br />
I don't know if they were little and white<br />
I wonder sometimes<br />
If that was why--<br />
Or part of why--<br />
But no matter.)<br />
<br />
He gave me little white pills<br />
I gave him blood<br />
To check my numbers<br />
He said "I'll call if they're really bad"<br />
And I took my scrip<br />
And yelled at the pharmacist<br />
Until they gave me<br />
Little white pills<br />
Just one at a time<br />
To replace<br />
The ones that didn't work.<br />
<br />
Today I had to have a beer<br />
To make the pain stop.<br />
I will take my little white pill<br />
And hope<br />
To be more than a little better than I was<br />
Tomorrow.<div class="blogger-post-footer">Remember that if you read this syndicated you need to click through to leave me a comment.</div>Dw3t-Hthrhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11584245136407694660noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-91834267845815058862013-03-01T13:01:00.000-05:002013-03-01T13:01:10.616-05:00Runnin' Down a DreamLast night I dreamed my teacher told me to get to know a goddess.<br />
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I thought that was interesting, so I did a little research. (The goddess in question has an odd intellectual presence in my life, so it's not totally random....)<br />
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That research was increasingly interesting.<br />
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And then I turned up that in her native territory, it is customary to burn offerings for her the first Friday of the month.<br />
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And I looked at the calendar....<br />
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So then I started looking up what gets burned. "Herbs", the internet tells me. I grumble a lot.<br />
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Then Little Foot comes home from the grocery store and hands me a pot of basil.<br />
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(I looked it up. Basil does grow there.)<br />
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I don't even know, man.<br />
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So I got my liege's assistance with applied pyromania and set up a little something.<br />
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Religion is weird.<div class="blogger-post-footer">Remember that if you read this syndicated you need to click through to leave me a comment.</div>Dw3t-Hthrhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11584245136407694660noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-92028101632502541022013-02-21T18:40:00.005-05:002013-02-21T18:40:57.136-05:00The Yellow WoodI was thinking about this before I read <a href="http://forestdoor.wordpress.com/2013/02/19/choice/">Dver's post on Choice</a>, but I think I have it articulable now.<div>
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People talk about the price that comes of doing intense spirit-work, the obligations and taboos that accrue if one pursues that as a lifework. And it gets talked about because there are people who will treat their community's medium as a public service, who are enraged that the local witch needs to pay the electric bill, who are consumed by fits of jealousy and want to know why someone else can pierce the veils between worlds and bring back messages and not them.</div>
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And a while back when people were talking about god-slavery as a practice/calling, there was one coming in with a great deal of, "Well clearly <i>my</i> gods do this much more seriously than <i>yours</i>," as if there is only one way to do it, and only a particular set and flavor of framework for devotion (one tending towards the ascetic, the henotheistic, the heavily taboo-bound) was relevant. (I was a touch nonplussed by running into subbier-than-thou-by-proxy, but such is the nature of religion at times?)</div>
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But everywhere is a complicated network of choices, and I can trace back through mine, and see each decision, each angle, even at times when there was no choice possible, no other option: to do otherwise would be a betrayal of myself or my vows or some other principle I held dear.</div>
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I recall a night looking Neb.y in the eye and seeing before me the grand fork, one way towards Little Foot and family and the life I was urgently trying to build and had been seeking for a long time, the other towards ecstasy and transformation and vast unknowable deeps on the far side of the dark.</div>
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I reached into the future and put my arms around my child, and I said, "You cannot have this."</div>
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And the god laughed at me, a long and hearty laugh, and He said, "Prove it."</div>
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So I did.</div>
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And that has made all the difference.</div>
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<br />
There's this illusion, you see, of a unified religion in discussions of ancient Egypt, usually a variant on the Heliopolitan cosmogony, with Amun-Ra instead of Atum-Ra, and sometimes with bonus Ptah in around the edges. The different myth cycles of each nome vanish in a kind of vague, generic lens of past culture unification. (Much like, I imagine, the particular mythologies of Athens dominate discussions of Hellenic culture, though for different reasons in that case.)<br />
<br />
But each region had its own myth cycle, its own stories, its own emphases, its own take on things. A book I'm reading at the moment had a Roman-era mention of a fight breaking out between delegations from two different towns on the subject of crocodile veneration or crocodile smiting - the subtext of which was "honor Set" vs. "execrate Set". And that isn't, as is usually handwaved, the "Oh, Set's reputation tanked as one went on in Egyptian history", that's two contemporary groups with profoundly different theologies.<br />
<br />
And every so often I run into someone who is deeply agitated about some bit of myth - often Set, not always - and I am coming to think that the perspective of "You have to be okay with this god, here's why" is a bad idea. Or at least an unnecessary one. The ancients certainly never sorted that shit out, if they were having slapfights about it while bemused Romans took notes.<br />
<br />
Here's a complete approach, entirely supportable by mythos:<br />
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The regular workaday patterns of the world are a seamless whole which must be preserved. Into that smooth fabric of being, disruptions are introduced, things that do not need to happen: the storm blows your roof in, or someone dies, or some other needless and painful moment happens. This happened in the sacred stories, too, and restorative justice only goes so far: Wesir was not returned to his wife and family, but was established in the Duat. Set becomes the beast of burden, confined to the polar stars so that he may not threaten the fragility that he created, one whose name is cursed.<br />
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Not only is this or something like it functional, supportable, and findable in multiple places, it's something that satisfies most people's needs. Wrestling with the question of those unnecessary disruptions does not require tangling with grey areas; they did harm, so we cast them out, we curse them, we make wax figurines of donkeys to go with our wax figurines of snakes, trample them and burn them.<br />
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Here's another complete approach, also supportable by mythos:<br />
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An unchanging system is a stagnant one, a vulnerable one, and its weaknesses will reveal themselves in time. To be powerful, it needs to be tested, prove itself, and overcome that which challenges it, and thus the function of challenge is essential to the health of the system. Whether it is Heru-Sa-Aset winning the potency, cunning, and self-determination required to become an archetypically powerful king, or Wesir himself learning the secrets of rebirth rather the hard way, the road to revealed power cannot go the easy route that has no conflict. The workings of Set, while not <i>necessary</i> to the functioning of an ordinary stable reality, are signposts marking the way to a change of condition.<br />
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This is a road for revolutionaries, for kings, for spirit-workers in the shamanistic style who are torn to pieces and put back together by the spirits, for those who can afford to imagine a different world and for those who can't afford not to. Those are the people who <i>need</i> Set, or something like him.<br />
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I tend to figure most people don't fall into either group, and they can choose which they feel more aligned with - or something else entirely. Theological conformity isn't that important.<div class="blogger-post-footer">Remember that if you read this syndicated you need to click through to leave me a comment.</div>Dw3t-Hthrhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11584245136407694660noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-46741090194085355932013-02-19T11:03:00.003-05:002013-02-19T11:03:42.759-05:00The Physical Possibility of Gender In The Mind of Someone WatchingLast week my liege and I took the kids and went to visit his grandmother.<br />
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This is always an exercise in barely-contained chaos, really, and at one point the three adults were sitting in the kitchen while the kids chased each other around the loop of the house, shrieking and bellowing with glee.<br />
<br />
"They're so girly at this age," commented his grandmother, perhaps because Little Foot - upon hearing a comment on her shock of hair - paused in her orbits and brushed her curls forward into her face to show them off, before of course whooping and charging off again like a very perky hound of hell.<br />
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At least, that's our only possible guess as to what might have been meant.<br />
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It's stuff like that that makes me feel like an alien anthropologist. "Tell me about the customs of your quaint little planet...."<div class="blogger-post-footer">Remember that if you read this syndicated you need to click through to leave me a comment.</div>Dw3t-Hthrhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11584245136407694660noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-35397222632490295922013-02-13T16:32:00.003-05:002013-02-13T16:32:46.932-05:00Summoning the Irony DemonsBecause really, having my previous post about my state of crisis being constantly barraged with the sort of spammer who shits on the most recent post is <i>bothering</i> me.<br />
<br />
I am making a post just for the spammers for a bit. Maybe I will be less personally disconcerted by spam here or on subsequent posts when I have something of substance to say.<div class="blogger-post-footer">Remember that if you read this syndicated you need to click through to leave me a comment.</div>Dw3t-Hthrhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11584245136407694660noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-1282185149010139032013-02-05T22:00:00.002-05:002013-02-05T22:00:22.236-05:00Once Upon A TimeSometime, a lifetime ago, I was severely depressive.<br />
<br />
I know, I know, a big shocker that.<br />
<br />
But one of the things that happened with that depressive episode is, basically: I never fully recovered from it. I spent a lot of time denying that, and it didn't do a whole hell of a lot of good, because it wasn't actually true.<br />
<br />
(Reality is what doesn't go away when you stop believing in it.)<br />
<br />
Life has changed a lot from the late nineties. I am not sure I entirely recognise who I was then. It's a complicated old world, and a lot has happened between then and now. But there are scars.<br />
<br />
I'm a whole lot healthier, in so many ways. Having an assortment of medical conditions that can be treated with pills and potions treated with those pills and potions can do a lot for sheer physical resilience. The kids don't seem as heavy as they used to, even. (Well, Little Foot feels like she weighs about a fucking ton, but she's a big kid, and it's a smaller fucking ton than it used to be? Dunno.)<br />
<br />
Maybe I can dig back enough to unearth those old wounds and try to heal them true this time.<br />
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Maybe I can forgive myself for who I used to be. And for the years of denying that it mattered.<br />
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(That's always a tough one.)<br />
<br />
Just pinged a therapist. We'll see if she works out, eh? Or I can try another. But inertia is the thing, and I kicked inertia by writing the one. (I still like my old therapist but I have moved further and further away from her, and with the kids the transit is just unworkable. I would like to drop by and see her sometime, introduce Little Foot, but when the fuck am I anywhere near Brookline? Never.)<div class="blogger-post-footer">Remember that if you read this syndicated you need to click through to leave me a comment.</div>Dw3t-Hthrhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11584245136407694660noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-75399840936102591672013-01-22T00:16:00.005-05:002013-01-22T00:16:56.849-05:00Back to Breath AgainI have been pondering how to find aspirations - a word which, again, is rooted in the concept of breath.<br />
<br />
A friend who I was talking to when I was having my health breakdown this weekend referred to Feldenkrais phrasings of "able to fufill one's avowed dreams", and that's the place it all falls down for me, back at the beginning of everything: figuring out how to get there from here means having to find a 'there' to get to.<br />
<br />
It was a couple months ago that I figured out that I want to be when I grow up. I am nearly old enough to legally qualify to be President of the United States, and I only just started getting the inklings of aspirations.<br />
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Part of that is a social problem: I got a lot of "you're good at this thing" feedback and not a whole lot of help figuring out what I wanted, what mattered to me, how to pursue what I might want to do with my life. (And while there's no way anyone could have meaningfully guided me to what I actually am doing with my life when I was a teenager, because my life is <i>too damn weird</i>, I could have gotten here with more productive back end stuff.) This is a systemic problem; I wrote about it before <a href="http://lettersfromgehenna.blogspot.com/2007/06/blogging-for-sex-education-day.html">in the very limited and specific field of sex ed</a>, but I do think it comes down to things like critical thinking, internal development, and paying attention to the inner narratives of kids, all of which the culture I grew up in <i>stink on ice at</i>.<br />
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A lot of people muddle through that to finding what they want to do with their lives okay, though that doesn't seem to be the goal; as far as I can tell the actual goal is to get people who are dulled into shapes that are adequately bland so as to not argue with the demands of corporatist reality. (People having dreams would be inconvenient when trying to coerce them into tedious jobs, after all.) People with goals for themselves, aspirations, desires, they're hard to keep in little boxes. They go looking for something better, more suited to them, or something eventually, if they haven't been broken.<br />
<br />
But the social stuff is, at least from where I sit at the moment, comparatively minor.<br />
<br />
When I was thrown out of college ("given the option to take medical leave", sorry), it was fundamentally because of the consequences of severe chronic depression at minimum. And that's the culmination of a long stream of "does not fulfill potential" type things, wondering why I did not continue to be the eager-beaver overachiever of my childhood - a childhood where I was so overwhelmingly <i>something</i> that people went and built me curricula to give me something to <i>do</i>, which on the one hand let me learn a lot, and on the other hand left me woefully unprepared for realities where people didn't try to keep and hold my interest with shiny opportunities all the time. And I knew damn well that the authorities of the school (or at least my godsawful dean) were mostly concerned with getting me shuffled off-campus so that if I killed myself it wouldn't reflect badly on them, because they weren't into looking after the Lesser Beings, you know, the people with <i>mental health problems</i>. That was a school for the High Achievers, you know. Not the disappointments.<br />
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Not living up to expectations means not having a college diploma, and that means having the devil of a time getting a job, by the way. Because everyone wants a damn diploma. I think the secretarial gig I picked up wanted a diploma but accepted me anyway. And not having any goals, any aspirations, any clue about what I wanted to do - especially when I had Failed At Science - made it hard to figure out what jobs I might even begin to enjoy, anyway, or do well at. (I discovered I was a pretty good secretary.)<br />
<br />
I also discovered that I had a circadian rhythm disorder that falls brilliantly into the social model of disability. By which I mean that when I could set my own schedule - as I did before they threw me out of school, trying to minimise my early morning classes and so on - I did fine, but being expected to keep a nine-to-five basically destroyed me. I managed to muddle through well enough to pay the rent, but I lost any ability to do much of anything other than work, eat, and sleep, though I maintained a social life on the internet with my remaining few bits of competence, trying to hold on to some sense of self.<br />
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A major depressive episode later, and some re-aggravation of my PTSD that I didn't recognise was happening in that form at the time (I mean, I only recognised it as a thing that was relevant a <i>few months ago</i> and that's something like a thirteen year gap), and I was wound up in a ball of neuroses and inadequacies that was hard to comb through. I didn't have at the time any clear sense of why I had sunk into the depths that time, which meant I had no idea how to prevent it happening again.<br />
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My understanding of myself had become that I could fail, and fail catastrophically: that I could shut down for reasons I did not understand and cease to be able to respond in a clear or meaningful way to the outside world, that I could neither maintain my commitments to others nor protect my own boundaries. That my mental state was at best delicate, capable of collapsing, unreliable, that I was fundamentally untrustworthy because my mental health - or perhaps my moral rectitude - was not sufficient to overcome my circumstances.<br />
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I built a life around those assumptions. The expectation that failure was implicit, inevitable, imminent: that circumstances could send my capacity for anything into a death spiral at any moment. Futility was my watchword. I would set myself small tasks and reward myself for them, but nothing in the sense of a long-term goal. (The longest-term goal I accomplished was 'write a novel', which was assembled from a long sequence of goals the outer time limit of which was about three days.)<br />
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What's the point of having dreams, anyway? When one isn't stable enough - or mature enough, or sane enough, or disciplined enough, or (some virtue or other depending on what seems appropriate for the beatings) enough - to achieve anything, why waste resources investing in an aspiration? I marinated in my own perception of worthlessness, because I could not imagine a better world.<br />
<br />
I would ask my doctor to check my thyroid levels regularly, and got grudging acquiescence and no help beyond that. Eventually - and this was a long time coming - I built up the personal reserves to imagine that I might deserve a more compatible doctor, and swapped to one in the same practice who seemed plausible.<br />
<br />
Who basically diagnosed a suspicion of my Hashimoto's in our first visit from our interview, ran the appropriate tests, and told me what it was the second visit, and got me on treatment.<br />
<br />
And I take a little pill every night before I go to bed, and when I wake up I can do things.<br />
<br />
All kinds of things.<br />
<br />
I was on the little magic pill for like a week when my liege came home with a truck full of cobblestones and was unloading them in the driveway. And I not only imagined that he would appreciate help, I managed to figure out a way of getting out there and helping him, and made the task go a whole hell of a lot more smoothly. All of which would have been beyond my scope a week before.<br />
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I am prone to commenting now that I have four major diagnoses - chronic depression, Hashimoto's thyroiditis, delayed sleep phase syndrome, and also recently discovered a significant nutritional deficiency which we haven't tracked down an etiology for but are currently attempting to bludgeon to death with a ridiculous number of supplements - all of which boil down to, at some level, "You feel tired all the time and you can't get shit done."<br />
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And as I wrestle with starting to get all that stuff treated I find myself wondering ...<br />
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... now what?<br />
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Because I'm nearly old enough to be President. And I have never felt able to have the luxury of dreams. So now that I might not be a failure, now that I might be able to do something in the world... I'm at a total loss.<br />
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(While I was in the middle of writing this, I got email from the ACLU titled "You can't suppress a dream", and I just ... ... stared at it for a long time before I hit delete. I don't even know, guys.)<div class="blogger-post-footer">Remember that if you read this syndicated you need to click through to leave me a comment.</div>Dw3t-Hthrhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11584245136407694660noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-20814308528893253632013-01-19T16:02:00.004-05:002013-01-19T16:02:57.348-05:00The Illusion of Able-BodiednessRight now, I really want to be able to pretend to be able-bodied again.<br />
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I have spent much of my life getting good at pretending. It meant that my incapacities were moral failings rather than concerns of health, sure, but somehow it's easier to be a failure than to wrestle with actual embodiment, and living in a body that in subtle, quiet ways fails to serve what I want to do with it.<br />
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(But in the spiritual process that comes of needing to sharply start shedding those comfortable lies, the comfort goes along with the lies....)<br />
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What brings this to a head, of course, is the way treatment brings health into a sharp relief. If I can take a pill and be more energetic, more functional, stronger, more <i>competent</i>... then all the structural incompetence is something that can't stand, and I have to replace it with something else.<br />
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If I manage to put trust in numbers when I could not put trust in myself, and the numbers not only reveal my autoimmune problem but other deficiencies in my chemistry, then I cannot ... not <i>honestly</i> ... say that one set of numbers validates me and the other does not.<br />
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Even if it would be nice, when the treatment for the other set of numbers makes me frail and helpless and trembling and unable to stabilise my emotional state, to say "I don't believe in this" and throw it aside. Because I looked up the problem, and it had things like risks of permanent neurological damage, and even if I don't believe in the dualism and even if I don't know how to comfortably be in my body <i>my mind, I was using that thing</i>, okay?<br />
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Being angry is getting me through it. It gives me enough strength to keep from collapse. Maybe not the best of solutions but for the lack of anything else that <i>works</i> I will just keep at that. I can be angry at the loss of my illusions, here, even if many of them were illusions that I was worthless, that I was just as free to act and be and do what I dreamed in the world as anyone else.<br />
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I spent time working on, wrestling with, fighting my way to a place where I could work on embodiment, on not drifting up into the realms of the theoretical and the mind. This is a thing that's part of my training in my Craft work, something that I need to do to be effective in reality, and as I get deep into this work, deep deep in, my body's frailty catches me and I am caught in this deep, penetrating weakness. And because I can't just stop what I'm doing, pop up into the realm of the mind, for so many reasons, I have to face my way through what it is to be embodied in a body that ... is like this one.<div class="blogger-post-footer">Remember that if you read this syndicated you need to click through to leave me a comment.</div>Dw3t-Hthrhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11584245136407694660noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-8445337822630004552012-12-31T23:55:00.002-05:002012-12-31T23:55:59.989-05:00A is for Apotheosis<blockquote>
Your purification is the purification of Heru</blockquote>
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Your purification is the purification of Set<br />
Your purification is the purification of Djehwty<br />
Your purification is the purification of Dwn-Anwy<br />
Your purification is the purification of your ka<br />
Your purification is the purification of your purification<br />
and this purification of yours also<br />
Is among your brethren, the gods.<br />
- Pyramid Text 36<br />
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Your brethren, the gods.<br />
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What kinship is there between the human and the divine?<br />
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Well, there's the <a href="http://lettersfromgehenna.blogspot.com/2010/07/ka.html">ka</a>, of course, as explicitly mentioned - which is fundamentally the many-divided and multiply-intertwined ka of the Creator, differentiated unto millions. But the ka is a different sort of identity than is addressed with "you", most times, so that is at best only an incomplete suggestion of an answer.<br />
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The word for 'god' in Egyptian can be translated with, I feel, more nuance, as 'divine power'. And I would suggest from that that there is a gradation there: one can <i>have</i> divine power, and one can also <i>be</i> a divine power. Certainly, there are cases in Egyptian lore of a human accumulating sufficient <i>netjer</i> to become <i>netjer</i> - Imhotep being a primary example of such a person (who was not previously a bearer of the Kingly Ka, which complicates the whole divinity question a touch).<br />
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Heka - the most commonly discussed power of magic - was a gift granted to humans in order to "ward off events", or something rather like that. It is a divine power. (It also means 'activation of the ka', and thus resonates with that deep divinity.) Akhu, another magical word, is also the word for "ancestors", and indeed the ancestors are commonly thought of as closer to the gods in some ways than the living.<br />
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But there is the inner truth, the personal <i>netjer</i>, that ideal and aspirational being, the personal power within. That which you are the only one who can achieve it is bound up with that personal divinity, that personal place. The intimate and most individual of powers, the purification of which is also the purification of your brethren, the gods.<br />
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<blockquote>
Who is this flower above me</blockquote>
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And what is the work of this god?<br />
I would know myself in all my parts.<br />
- "The Flower Prayer"<div class="blogger-post-footer">Remember that if you read this syndicated you need to click through to leave me a comment.</div>Dw3t-Hthrhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11584245136407694660noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-74334442350858729572012-12-30T22:09:00.002-05:002012-12-30T22:09:53.132-05:00Z is for ZenithThe more one cares about paying attention to astronomical phenomena, the more there are these moments, the points at which things reach their height, from which they then drop.<br />
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The celestial falcon, the distant one, spreads his wings over the skies, the sun at peak, the noonday light blue and gold over his wingfeathers. This may be only a moment, but it is an eternal moment: to be fully ensconced and balanced within power may only happen for an instant, but it is an eternal instant.<br />
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The falcon remains in the heights.<br />
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Noon will come again.<br />
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The stars rise and set.<br />
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Time is an endless dance of zenith and descent, revival and climb.<br />
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<blockquote>
Ascend and descend; descend with Ra, sing into darkness with Ndi.</blockquote>
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Ascend and descend; ascend with Ra, rise with the Great Float-User.<br />
Ascend and descend; descend with Nebet-Het, sink into darkness with the Night-bark.<br />
Ascend and descend; ascend with Aset, rise with the Day-bark.<br />
- Pyramid Texts 222, mostly as translated by Faulkner<div class="blogger-post-footer">Remember that if you read this syndicated you need to click through to leave me a comment.</div>Dw3t-Hthrhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11584245136407694660noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-34572871529994202092012-12-30T01:02:00.000-05:002012-12-30T01:02:22.662-05:00Y is for Yard SpiritsTaking a moment to wander back from the fields of the abstract and philosophical for a moment...<br />
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I think it's important to get to know your local spirits. It's not like the only spiritual world one can find is either off in the realm of the gods or out in the deepest wilderness; the local life participates in an ecosystem, is shaped to a land with a history, and has things to say.<br />
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Part of living within the world and as a part of it has to be living with the realities of right here and right now. And that can mean learning about the life cycles of dandelions, cultivating the acquaintance of bats, and sitting on the back porch having a long heart-to-heart with whatever entities happen to hang out in the backyard.<br />
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They have things that they care about, attitudes, preferences. And they vary a lot - the personality of my front yard spirits is rather different from that of the back yard spirits. Some spirits are permanent residents; some will be more transient visitors.<br />
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If nothing else, learn to listen.<br />
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Perhaps give a little back.<div class="blogger-post-footer">Remember that if you read this syndicated you need to click through to leave me a comment.</div>Dw3t-Hthrhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11584245136407694660noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-89549113361674508552012-12-28T23:35:00.002-05:002012-12-28T23:35:19.528-05:00X is for X______________Okay, yeah, whatever, that's excessively meta.<br />
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But that's where you sign your name on the dotted line. Put down your mark, all of that stuff.<br />
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It's worth thinking about what you put your name to, where you put your commitments. And this isn't just a "which god do you swear to" (or by, or at) sort of thing.<br />
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Because your commitments are a part of how you build your worth, your personal authority: the point of pride that is your personal law. Your discipline, the spine of your practice.<br />
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This is the root of magic, among other things: being able to stick to your intention. Whether your magic is based in word or will or some other thing, you need to bloody well follow through.<br />
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It seems like a simple thing, but it really rather isn't. Everything slips, everything loosens up at times. Meaning to do it isn't doing it. (And that's what Yoda was on about, right? Don't intend, act.) This is one of those Witch's Pyramid points, to will, to put creation in motion in the forms you demand of it.<br />
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This point of pride, of action, these things make up how your identity is defined: what you follow through on, what you affiliate with, what you allow to shine.<br />
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(I meant what I said and I said what I meant, an elephant's faithful one hundred percent.)<div class="blogger-post-footer">Remember that if you read this syndicated you need to click through to leave me a comment.</div>Dw3t-Hthrhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11584245136407694660noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-14927736326564675792012-12-26T21:53:00.002-05:002012-12-26T21:53:50.767-05:00V is for Vino VeritasHetharu is the Lady of Intoxication.<br />
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There's a lot to be said around that, and a lot of it is actually kind of difficult to express. I mean, there's the obvious point that the use of alcohol is not something problematic, but it's hard to avoid that on a culture that is heavily constructed around beer in any case.<br />
<br />
But here is a thing: one of the effects of alcohol is what gets called "lowered inhibitions". It brings forward all of those desires that one wouldn't admit to ordinarily, and takes the brakes off, meaning they're more likely to happen.<br />
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There is a peculiar honesty to alcohol.<br />
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I suspect that's where "in vino veritas" comes from, that sense that people who have been loosened with that particular drug will show something less constrained, something that is in some way more real. (It will reveal people whose secret desires are foul and antisocial as well, which is knowledge worth having at times even when dealing with someone who is a "good person" when sober....)<br />
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Not all the things people feel constrained from are awful. Some of them are small things.<br />
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It's worth knowing where the narrow spots are, sometimes.<br />
<br />
(Tipsy, I stop fixing my typos.<br />
<br />
I make broader, more expansive gestures with my hands.<br />
<br />
I poke people in the nose. Generally people I'm close to who won't mind. Much.<br />
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Juxtapose something expected with something surprising and bam, there's that funniness creeping in, the sudden jolt of rupture. There's the unexpected, and the unexpected often makes people laugh.<br />
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Religion - if really done right - often works the same way.<br />
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Doing the work, really doing things, eventually it makes shapes that will shift suddenly. And religions are work, they come with obligations. (This isn't to say that everyone who claims a given religion is good at doing its work - but that doesn't change the nature of the thing.)<br />
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If the work is to comb through one's life in order to figure out how to be better to other people, well, eventually some realisation is going to demand a change. Sometimes a hard one, and that's not going to be <i>expected</i>, it's a result of doing the work. The same for any other religious principle - of adhering to the rules, of developing personal strength, of whatever else. It changes people.<br />
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Initiations are of course one of the more dramatic forms of changing people, and they - also - work with the unexpected. The sudden putting together of pieces to make for the moment of sudden realisation.<br />
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If it just keeps being the same, all the time, nothing calling for change, for deeper work, for more dedication, for more <i>something</i>...<br />
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... is it really having any effect?<div class="blogger-post-footer">Remember that if you read this syndicated you need to click through to leave me a comment.</div>Dw3t-Hthrhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11584245136407694660noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-14497151941934571222012-12-21T21:31:00.000-05:002012-12-21T21:31:10.986-05:00Z is for Zep TepiZep Tepi: the first time. (Sometimes translated 'the first occasion', or similar other things.)<br />
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Here is the crack of cosmic dawn, the Big Bang if you want: out of nothingness, light, matter, form. All things in their proper place, the divine order making itself manifest, the out-folding of being from the spark of potentiality.<br />
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The heart of ritual is Zep Tepi.<br />
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The heart of the temple is Zep Tepi.<br />
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If you have no Zep Tepi, you got nuffin'.<br />
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Most seriously: there is an instant of crystalline perfection, that first moment, that first blink of dawn, utterly pure, utterly <i>right</i>. That is the origin point of being.<br />
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And because it is the origin point of being, it is everywhere, an immanent presence. Now exists - in all its glories and all of its muck - because Zep Tepi.<br />
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Which means you can get there at any time.<br />
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It is always, always possible to come to alignment, to open, to find that perfect note. The song is always there, waiting for your voice.<br />
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The candle you light always has the potential to be the First Light, because the First Light is why there is a candle. The incense you burn always has the potential to be the breath of the gods, because the breath of the gods is why there is incense. These are ever-present, ever-available, there is no falling away and being lost from the possibility of clarity because clarity is wound-through and a part of every moment of living, if you just know to reach for it.<br />
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This is the Original Sinlessness.<br />
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You inherited it.<div class="blogger-post-footer">Remember that if you read this syndicated you need to click through to leave me a comment.</div>Dw3t-Hthrhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11584245136407694660noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-62646470135679865412012-12-20T20:09:00.004-05:002012-12-20T20:09:59.516-05:00W is for WorshipA pet peeve: pagans who appear to be afraid of the word "worship".<br />
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It's really a thing. "Oh, I don't worship gods. I work with them!" "I honor them!" "I am devoted to...."<br />
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But never worship.<br />
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All of those acts of religious devotion directed towards a deity? Not worship. Somehow.<br />
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Showing reverence and adoration? Nope, not worship either.<br />
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It's a weird thing to me. All of this activity that is on a literal level worship is defensively declared to not <i>actually</i> be recognition of the worthiness of the gods to be honored. And I know it's a connotational thing for some people, the whole history of experience in religion that was big on self-abasement and all, but self-abasement is still a different thing than worship.<br />
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I think sometimes it's something more insidious, though, kind of a Buddy Christ phenomenon. Working with gods, being a kind of professional colleague, it feels like being more important than worship, which recognises and differentiates between categories in a kind of rank-acknowledging way. <a href="http://lettersfromgehenna.blogspot.com/2012/11/l-is-for-lord.html">And that rank thing, it's touchy, isn't it?</a><br />
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And sometimes there actually is stuff about meeting the gods as a comparative equal, individual to individual, but I do tend to think that that needs to come with respecting the existence of differences. A god is still out there manifesting on a much more cosmic level than I manifest, so if the standard of equality is "two manifesting beings", well, we've got that, but it remains a difference of <i>kind</i>. And if worship requires a difference of kind, well, it's <i>there</i>.<br />
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I light my candles, I burn my incense, and you know - if you're out there lighting candles and burning incense to me you're a bit confused, and probably have a bit of category error going on. Different categories, different types of attention paid.<br />
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It's a thing.<div class="blogger-post-footer">Remember that if you read this syndicated you need to click through to leave me a comment.</div>Dw3t-Hthrhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11584245136407694660noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-91354885332238163372012-12-19T23:18:00.001-05:002012-12-19T23:18:23.663-05:00U is for UndefinedI was in a conversation earlier today that kind of orbited around the subject of what one calls one's religion. Which is an interesting subject in a lot of ways, because there are times where - if one even <i>has</i> a simple word - the more one goes into a particular path or way of being, the less the simple word describes it.<br />
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It's worse, of course, if there isn't a simple word or phrase to run with, if the explanation to "what is your religion?" comes in pieces and assemblages of concepts, not in a handy label that someone can then take away, look up, and gnaw on in quiet. At least if I say "Kemetic" someone has something to start from, and while they might get it bass-ackwards in practice there's at least a thing to point at that will get all but the most clueless aimed in roughly the right direction.<br />
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But of course that gets less and less true the more you look at it - and not because I'm a wacky Crafty mystic. Or not just. Because for all that state cultus would be largely the same no matter which Egyptian god was tucked away in the heart of the temple, that doesn't mean I do state cultus. Or that the gods I deal with were the sort of gods who had temples dedicated to them. And when you get personal with things, the sorts of things that people are called to do vary widely, and since I'm household-oriented which is not exactly a going thing in a lot of mainline Kemetic practice, it goes ...<br />
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... well, pretty sideways, without touching <i>any of</i> theological points, differences in reconstructive practice, differences between mortar choices, concurrent practice, or anything else ....<br />
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If you want to know what's really going on with someone, the handles aren't going to be good enough, not unless you get a whole big heap of them in a pile together and achieve critical mass. (When writing a short bio for a conference I'm going to be presenting at, I cited "Egyptian reconstructionist", "student of the Craft", and "hardworking mama" as critical threads - and that's all religious information, even though some people will pretend that the third one isn't.)<br />
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And then there are directions where it has to go undefined. The same conversation led me to starting to make math puns about divinity, and I suspect there's some truth to this: that the practice of mysticism is pretty much a process of division by zero. The rules don't work there anymore, and you can get nothing or the infinite or for all I know a ham sandwich out of it, because this is <i>undefined</i>. The divisor which can be spoken is not the eternal divisor. There's a tension between nothing and everything, between the bounded and the endless, that rattles around in the asymptote that can be drawn between the infinite and the negative-infinite, encompassing all things when nothing is on top.<br />
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I don't think I'm a liminalist. Or at least I'm not a liminalist anymore, which is a funny place for someone who has for a long time self-defined in shadows and penumbras. But it's not the fringes I'm there for, anymore, it's the bridges. That funny place in the world where the entire span of being from one infinity to its negation hums on the one point. It's not the boundary-zone between worlds, it is Yggdrasil, you see what I mean?<br />
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Aleph ... NOT.<div class="blogger-post-footer">Remember that if you read this syndicated you need to click through to leave me a comment.</div>Dw3t-Hthrhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11584245136407694660noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-65418458553464352462012-12-18T23:56:00.001-05:002012-12-18T23:57:18.172-05:00S is for Sovereignty<br />
It is all well and good to talk about sovereignty, about personal sovereignty, about sovereignty goddesses, and all that stuff, but it is not as easy to <i>do that work</i>.<br />
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The trick to self-rule is knowing how big you are. Which is an interesting thing, in a world that wants to simultaneously crush and inflate people, now, isn't it? It's almost as though there are people who would benefit from <i>most folks not knowing how to own themselves</i>.<br />
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Having permeable boundaries and an inability to defend them, so that minor offenses can escalate into major ones without causing a hassle.<br />
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Having no sense of responsibility or consequences for actions, and thus being able to blame The Bad Parenting or The Culture of Violence or The Difficulty Being a Whatever These Days or Falling In Love Makes Everyone Stupid or whatever other handy-dandy get out of jail free is being pawned off here.<br />
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But go back to the beginning. To govern yourself you need to know who you are. Not what other people want you to be, not what the little voices suggest, not what a history of glamour or pain would like to bind you to. To know your actual strengths, your actual weaknesses, the actual steps you need to take to reach your actual goals.<br />
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Working on that will keep you busy for a few years. It is not simple work to find yourself in among the coils of everything else - there's a lot of clutter in the average mind, after all.<br />
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And of course, then there's the doing it. And accepting the consequences of each of the parts of it. Because the thing about sovereignty is that - even if one chooses to do a job, or take a service role, or become a priest of a god, or anything else - one bears the burden of that work. "So and so told me to do it" is no more a free pass than "I had a troubled childhood."<br />
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The thing about troubled childhoods is, okay, it sucks to have one. <a href="http://lettersfromgehenna.blogspot.com/2008/08/something-appealing-something-appalling.html">Much like it sucks to have triggers.</a> But - much like the damn triggers - it's a thing where, okay, at some point "<a href="http://www.lyricsfreak.com/s/savage+garden/to+the+moon+back_20122141.html">Mama never loved her much and daddy never keeps in touch and that's why she shies away from human affection</a>" or whatever the sad story is, it's nothing other than a tether: hold on to that to have a reason not to do otherwise.<br />
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Actual liberty is hard work. It does not allow for excuses. It is the singing octave of power, <a href="http://lettersfromgehenna.blogspot.com/2007/03/courting-power.html">that vibration of the self acting as itself, moving to its own music</a>.<br />
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To own oneself fully is a freedom that is difficult to bear, because the responsibility of it can be overwhelming. This is the call of sovereignty. This is the seat of power, and the heart of governance. The sacred path to the holy kingdom is the apple of your I.<br />
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In order to say "yes" you must also be able to say "no". And in order to say "no", you must also be able to say "yes". There is no escaping the nature of meaningful choice.<br />
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And bear the responsibility for either choice.<br />
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It's always an interesting question, the one of "Who is one answerable to?"</div>
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One of the reasons that a lot of pagans have anarchic tendencies is that, having grown up observing Organised Religion Tee-Em, well, a lot of us see that Organising tends to encourage people to get themselves into positions where nobody will feel able to call them on their shit.</div>
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One of the other reasons that a lot of pagans have anarchic tendencies is that they don't want to get into a position where someone will have the authority to call them on their shit.</div>
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Both of these approaches have their problems. (She said blandly.)</div>
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Here's a fact of life: we're all of us going to be full of nonsense at some point along the line. Sometimes it'll be a lot of nonsense, sometimes it'll be a little nonsense, but <i>there will be nonsense</i>. With a little luck, we'll usually be able to notice that we're talking bollocks and stop doing so without making damned fools of ourselves - or doing harm to others.</div>
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I tell you something: there's stuff I dealt with when I was younger, where I <i>genuinely don't know</i> even with adult perspective how much of it was "real" and how much of it was some sort of contagious delusion. (I can only be grateful that it was perhaps less grand than The War On The Astral and was less publically proclaimed.) But one of the things that I think good about that time in my life is that - while a bunch of folks got quite wound up about it - we then went and dealt with it, and as far as I know nobody did a whole bunch of talking it up as a grand mystical experience or proof that this particular bunch of young folks had an especial type of experience unfamiliar to anyone else. Or what have you. We kept a decent watch on ourselves.</div>
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And that's part of the process, isn't it? Run checks. Try a couple perspectives on to see how what I'm doing looks if I don't assume that it's "real". Whatever.</div>
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<li>Is this thought/experience/role/claim something that serves primarily to inflate my ego or serve as self-aggrandisement? Is it a claim of specialness or separation from others? (Is it heavily distinguished from the types of experiences that other people have claimed to have within my knowledge, for that matter?)</li>
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<li>If the information from this process is about me, is it something personal to me ("I need to pursue this work/clean my room/quit my job/etc.") or is it something that I think other people should know about me? <a href="http://twilightandfire.wordpress.com/2012/08/08/pagan-blog-project-possession-a-rant/">Do I make it all about me even when it oughtn't be?</a></li>
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<li>What fraction of stuff-about-me is "That's awesome!" or "I'm so cool!" and what fraction is "Fuck, I have to deal with <i>that</i>?" or "You want me to do <i>what</i>?" (Work doesn't mean it's genuine, but actual effort required is more plausible than the universe handing out free cookies.)</li>
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<li>What are the actual risks - to myself or others - from listening to the little voices and doing what they suggest?</li>
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<li>Is the danger of listening to the little voices commensurate with the value of what is being pursued by that action (to both me and the entities thus proposed)?</li>
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<li>IS MY SHIT SORTED RIGHT NOW? Because if my shit is unsorted, then it's much more likely that I'm hearing my own emotional damage than something external, or my own insecurities, or simply my own potential for an epic stress meltdown.</li>
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<li>Do I currently have the capacity to express good judgement in my ordinary life? Am I expecting myself to have better ability to make significant choices than evidence suggests is a good idea (perhaps because I think dealing with esoteric/spiritual/whatever stuff will have <i>fewer consequences</i> than staying up so late that I get late to work in the morning and can't do my job or something)?</li>
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<li>Am I working with spiritual/magical/religious tools that are supposed to produce this kind of experience, or is this totally random crap that I'm trying to organise?</li>
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<li>If I am dealing with a known entity, is the sort of stuff I get from that entity consistent with other experiences of that entity? With the lore, with the experiences of other practitioners, with mythology, with recorded ritual practice, etc.? Do I get confirmation of unexpected details when I do further reading or talk with others? (I had a fascinating confuence of similar experience when talking to other dedicants of Neb.y about our <i>hair color</i> ... which was also consistent with the lore.)</li>
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<li><i>If I am in fact making up this experience</i>, how would my behaviour patterns change, and are those other behaviours notably improved? If I clean my room as part of a spiritual devotion that's one thing - but if I do spiritual devotions <i>instead of cleaning my room</i>, that's rather another.</li>
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It's worth having a checklist to keep a watch on oneself. It's also worth having a community who can help run this and other checklists for each other.</div>
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But the problem in greater pagandom is a lot of people run into groups that don't run any sort of checklist. It doesn't matter what crap they make up - they'll run into someone who'll believe it.</div>
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This does not serve us well.</div>
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The Red Land and the Black Land is sort of the founding drama of Egypt - the desert and the fertile strip along the Nile, Set and Wesir. There are a lot of these dances to be had in mythology, the brother/other tango. And a lot of people want to offload the "bad" onto redness - much like they do onto blackness, though it's generally a different bad. Red is for rage and lust and all of that stuff that good people don't do, right? Red is that sign to Stop Doing That, or the mark for danger: don't go here, don't try this stuff, stay away.<br />
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Red is also at the root of "rubric", the set of instructions and procedures for a ritual, written in red ink. Write your names of dangerous beasts and demonic figures in red - and write your gestural procedures and your steps of what to do in red, too. This is a guide, a structure, and it crops up in rather more than medieval manuscripts; you'll find those red-written liner notes in the Book of Going Forth By Day, too.<br />
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Red is for blood, that dangerous color to see on the outside of your skin - but redness flows through you all the time, and it is that redness, that blood, that pulse that unifies your parts, causes your organs to function as a whole. (This is not a statement about biology; this is a statement about etheric anatomy from an Egyptian perspective. The fact that it's also kind of true physiologically is also a thing.) That redness is made of iron, your life built out of the deaths of stars quite directly. (Trace elements are trace elements, but iron is the star-killer.) That redness is fire, and its heat is what drives your personal engine.<br />
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Which isn't to say that I'm okay with that sidelining of those red emotions, the rage and lust end of things - because those are things which are filled with life. The idea is not to <i>not have</i> them, it is to have them in appropriate circumstances, to deal with them appropriately, to keep them aligned and, as a different tradition would put it, under the hand of love. That these things can be a manifestation of the destroyer is a given - but that simply means that <i>they are not an exception to everything else</i>. Treating them as such because of their intensity is a good way to go completely askew, and that pulls things out from under the hand of love ... and thus more free to smash shit up.<br />
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Redness is not the enemy.<div class="blogger-post-footer">Remember that if you read this syndicated you need to click through to leave me a comment.</div>Dw3t-Hthrhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11584245136407694660noreply@blogger.com2