tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post4970291955955045964..comments2023-08-09T03:21:13.354-05:00Comments on Letters from Gehenna: The World on a Slant: The Cult of MommonDw3t-Hthrhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11584245136407694660noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-72527220895873343122010-03-03T20:32:51.448-05:002010-03-03T20:32:51.448-05:00Damn, this was a righteously good post! Thank you ...Damn, this was a righteously good post! Thank you for putting these words into the world. From a grandmother who's sick to death of this mommy-as-saint thing that seems to have mutated yet again with a generational vengeance (like a fucking rapidly-replicating virus)... <i>thank you</i>.Denisemariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13615696655134779454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-89325498347154948332010-01-19T15:59:54.815-05:002010-01-19T15:59:54.815-05:00I have always believed that being a mother is a ca...I have always believed that being a mother is a career -- if you work outside the home, it is likely to be a second career. I, myself, was not up to multi-careering and so did stay-at-home-mothering. Not a gift, a choice!<br /><br />:) Lindalindaschifferhttp://www.seminolelinda.typepad.com/fiber_and_pulpnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-9362917906288969822009-12-13T22:37:55.811-05:002009-12-13T22:37:55.811-05:00Murre:
My earnest wishes for your best health.
O...Murre:<br /><br />My earnest wishes for your best health.<br /><br />One of the things my lion and I have talked about for years is that a sire and a dam do not a parent make; being a parent is in the <i>doing</i>. I try to be very careful to include adoptive parents and adopted children in my mental conception of parenthood.Dw3t-Hthrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11584245136407694660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-68279241390903759852009-12-13T09:13:14.690-05:002009-12-13T09:13:14.690-05:00Awesome. Simply, awesome. Thank you for saying thi...Awesome. Simply, awesome. Thank you for saying this.Dionnahttp://www.codenamemama.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-27381037319518809242009-12-07T17:33:51.786-05:002009-12-07T17:33:51.786-05:00Dw3t-Hthr,
I was so glad to find my way back here...Dw3t-Hthr,<br /><br />I was so glad to find my way back here today, and to read you including the work of adoption as part of parenting. It struck a chord as Orlando (who didn't mean to misread your post on the occasion of Little Foot's arrival!) and I have been been forced to choose very deliberately about interventions in my body (now) vs our lives (later) to enable reproduction, bodily or social, in the context of my having cancer.<br /><br />thank you.Murrehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04975291640256802001noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-2424803453562360712009-12-02T08:21:36.496-05:002009-12-02T08:21:36.496-05:00No, please, feel free to submit it. It needed to ...No, please, feel free to submit it. It needed to be said, and having said it I sure don't mind it being seen. ;)Dw3t-Hthrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11584245136407694660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-39348219455885616362009-12-02T02:17:32.915-05:002009-12-02T02:17:32.915-05:00This is a fucking brilliant post. :-)
Would you m...This is a fucking brilliant post. :-)<br /><br />Would you mind if I submitted it to the "carnival of feminist parenting" at Mothers for Women's Lib? Or would you prefer me not to.Rosemary Cottagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12204378986946967049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-63271493301218617522009-11-22T17:12:52.285-05:002009-11-22T17:12:52.285-05:00No worries Dw3t-Hthr, thanks for reposting my comm...No worries Dw3t-Hthr, thanks for reposting my comment for me :)mamacrowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16484565827023574347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-86808859268361721382009-11-20T19:54:17.255-05:002009-11-20T19:54:17.255-05:00Thank you. I am kowtowing at your feet for expres...Thank you. I am kowtowing at your feet for expressing it so much better than I ever could in years of parenting and having this sentiment-religio-infused manure tea sprayed in my direction. Thank you. Seriously thank you so very much!Labryshttp://www.walkofthefallen.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-58932568297722130912009-11-20T14:50:03.414-05:002009-11-20T14:50:03.414-05:00Reposting what mamacrow said, because I can't ...Reposting what mamacrow said, because I can't fix it:<br /><br />HEAR HEAR!<br /><br />love is a VERB you know? so you don't feel like the prestine worshiped figure, and you're finding it hard to feel the warm fuzzies - SO WHAT. you still get up, and cuddle and nurse and change/wipe bums and read the same book for 50 times in a row whether you feel like it or not.<br /><br />That's motherhood - 'Deliberate consciously chosen perpetual commitments' as you say. <br /><br />THAT's love.Dw3t-Hthrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11584245136407694660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-31481917878409473802009-11-20T14:47:34.712-05:002009-11-20T14:47:34.712-05:00Dammit, mamacrow, I didn't mean to kill your c...Dammit, mamacrow, I didn't mean to kill your comment. :( Trying to deal with a spammer.Dw3t-Hthrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11584245136407694660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-61273808538594671662009-11-19T16:19:07.396-05:002009-11-19T16:19:07.396-05:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.mamacrowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16484565827023574347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-79423541900073230992009-11-18T14:25:13.095-05:002009-11-18T14:25:13.095-05:00*cheers as well*
Yes. This!
A gift does not cau...*cheers as well*<br /><br />Yes. This!<br /><br />A gift does not cause so much pain, blood, sweat and tears to simply DELIVER and then years more to nurture.<br /><br />The hugs I get from sleepy swuggies sneaking in to my room in the morning because he loves me so much he can't help but want to hug me? THOSE are a gift.<br /><br />The third time in a row he fails potty training 101 and I have to clean it up? NOT SO MUCH! :DVievahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15156288385744214737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-6693422778351522752009-11-17T01:35:50.099-05:002009-11-17T01:35:50.099-05:00Excellent post.
It's all part of the erasure ...Excellent post.<br /><br />It's all part of the erasure of the physicality of the whole thing. I increasingly suspect that's because if society really had to face up to what women actually <b>do</b> physically by being pregnant and giving birth, it'd spontaneously collapse.Aqua, of the Questionershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03729823323134474391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-79159166771136015762009-11-16T22:22:25.707-05:002009-11-16T22:22:25.707-05:00::applauds, stomps, whistles, and cheers::
Sunflo...::applauds, stomps, whistles, and cheers::<br /><br />SunflowerSunflowerPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15069913788437731669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-52872408052820350122009-11-16T12:37:04.676-05:002009-11-16T12:37:04.676-05:00It's amazing, you know: I'm the descendent...It's amazing, you know: I'm the descendent of an unbroken line of organisms that survived to reproductive age!Dw3t-Hthrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11584245136407694660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-44707723476071091202009-11-16T00:26:58.728-05:002009-11-16T00:26:58.728-05:00In addition to not being a "gift" it'...In addition to not being a "gift" it's not...well, special. Of course every child is special and it's a special experience for those who undertake it, but it is also something every single one of our ancestors, going back millions of years, did as well. Sexual reproduction - it's just one of the things animals do.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-56637569668125331562009-11-16T00:24:44.129-05:002009-11-16T00:24:44.129-05:00"Gifts do not require twelve stitches upon re..."Gifts do not require twelve stitches upon receipt, people."<br /><br />Amen!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-47999844961960559062009-11-15T19:56:16.312-05:002009-11-15T19:56:16.312-05:00Fantastic post!
" It erases the experience i...Fantastic post!<br /><br />" It erases the experience in order to replace it with something clean and pristine that can be adored without contemplation of consequences or actual respect for the real efforts of mothers."<br /><br />Yes, this. I try to tell my friends who are parents how great they're doing from time to time, and to listen when they talk about how hard things are, because there's SO much pressure to be "perfect." And I mean, who the hell is perfect, anyway? Anyone who thinks they are a perfect parent? Is wrong.EthylBenzenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08809013705471938666noreply@blogger.com