tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post5826399815400037932..comments2023-08-09T03:21:13.354-05:00Comments on Letters from Gehenna: The World on a Slant: Reflections on Schooling, Effort, and PraiseDw3t-Hthrhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11584245136407694660noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-45855947196962688602007-02-20T18:15:00.000-05:002007-02-20T18:15:00.000-05:00Trin --Actually, it's sort of the same thing as so...Trin --<BR/><BR/>Actually, it's sort of the same thing as some of what was in my head when I was writing it; I found myself looking at the sort of praise-contact I seek in my relationship with my liege and whether or not it fit the pattern they were talking about.<BR/><BR/>And really, what I want with him is very, very specific -- ranging from 'guidance and critique of what I'm doing so that I can improve', very explicitly, to the more nebulous and yet still specific statements that hit 'this thing here, this I value; I value you giving it to me'.<BR/><BR/>Back to wanting statements to be <I>real</I>.Dw3t-Hthrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11584245136407694660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-70372301772229773812007-02-15T20:44:00.000-05:002007-02-15T20:44:00.000-05:00This is probably so beside the major point as to b...This is probably so beside the major point as to be laughable, but the whole praise deal got me thinking about D/s actually and the folks who'd always tell me "Submissives want to be told they're good girls/good boys."<BR/><BR/>I remember wanting badly to do D/s but thinking it seemed so silly to say "good boy" or "good girl" as if i were praising a puppy. I've since changed my mind now that I have more experience and know what people want and mean by what they want, but I think part of why probably was that I had an inkling of something like what this article is saying: that bland unspecific praise given without a specific purpose doesn't really mean anything.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4427538608110635294.post-54594373459082522922007-02-15T05:11:00.000-05:002007-02-15T05:11:00.000-05:00You know, that article made a lot of sense to me, ...You know, that article made a lot of sense to me, too.<BR/><BR/>I'm glad I saw it now, when I can still change the way I talk to my son. Because I STILL have problems with "needing to work at it" meaning "I'm not smart enough."<BR/><BR/>*sigh* thank you for this.Vievahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15156288385744214737noreply@blogger.com