It is all well and good to talk about sovereignty, about personal sovereignty, about sovereignty goddesses, and all that stuff, but it is not as easy to do that work.
The trick to self-rule is knowing how big you are. Which is an interesting thing, in a world that wants to simultaneously crush and inflate people, now, isn't it? It's almost as though there are people who would benefit from most folks not knowing how to own themselves.
Having permeable boundaries and an inability to defend them, so that minor offenses can escalate into major ones without causing a hassle.
Having no sense of responsibility or consequences for actions, and thus being able to blame The Bad Parenting or The Culture of Violence or The Difficulty Being a Whatever These Days or Falling In Love Makes Everyone Stupid or whatever other handy-dandy get out of jail free is being pawned off here.
But go back to the beginning. To govern yourself you need to know who you are. Not what other people want you to be, not what the little voices suggest, not what a history of glamour or pain would like to bind you to. To know your actual strengths, your actual weaknesses, the actual steps you need to take to reach your actual goals.
Working on that will keep you busy for a few years. It is not simple work to find yourself in among the coils of everything else - there's a lot of clutter in the average mind, after all.
And of course, then there's the doing it. And accepting the consequences of each of the parts of it. Because the thing about sovereignty is that - even if one chooses to do a job, or take a service role, or become a priest of a god, or anything else - one bears the burden of that work. "So and so told me to do it" is no more a free pass than "I had a troubled childhood."
The thing about troubled childhoods is, okay, it sucks to have one. Much like it sucks to have triggers. But - much like the damn triggers - it's a thing where, okay, at some point "Mama never loved her much and daddy never keeps in touch and that's why she shies away from human affection" or whatever the sad story is, it's nothing other than a tether: hold on to that to have a reason not to do otherwise.
Actual liberty is hard work. It does not allow for excuses. It is the singing octave of power, that vibration of the self acting as itself, moving to its own music.
To own oneself fully is a freedom that is difficult to bear, because the responsibility of it can be overwhelming. This is the call of sovereignty. This is the seat of power, and the heart of governance. The sacred path to the holy kingdom is the apple of your I.
In order to say "yes" you must also be able to say "no". And in order to say "no", you must also be able to say "yes". There is no escaping the nature of meaningful choice.
And bear the responsibility for either choice.