(Partially inspired by a conversation I was having with Trinity a few days ago.)
So a long time ago on a discussion group, I got into a conversation about casual sex. This is one of these things that has never held much appeal for me, though I'm not bothered by other people doing it (if those other people were among my partners we'd probably talk about safety concerns but aside from that it's not my business). I'm just not interested in people I don't know reasonably well, and hell, the one time I tried a friends-with-benefits setup (the most casual sex I've seriously contemplated) it wound up turning into a 24/7 D/S commitment.
The reason this conversation lasted more than an "Enh, whatever floats your boat, I'm not into that sort of thing" was the person who responded to me with something more or less resembling the following:
If you weren't brainwashed by a sex-negative culture, then you wouldn't hold that opinion. What you really need is to loosen up, sleep around a little, and see how your perspective changes. Or perhaps you've been damaged by some experience or your upbringing, and if you'd only heal a little, you'd come around.
What struck me about this at the time was that it reminded of certain types of religious proselytisation -- "If you weren't deluded by Satan, you'd understand that this was leading you into hell. Accept your sinfulness and begin to heal, and then you'll come around to Jesus."
What strikes me about this now is that it's a particularly popular attitude from a lot of ideologues: "If you only accepted my position, you'd understand why you're in the wrong. You only fail to agree with me now because you've been brainwashed by The Bad Guys, or because something They did to you hurt you in ways that you don't recognise. I have sympathy for your wounded soul: heal, take off your blinders, and come to Ideological Correctness."
So these days, whenever I come across these people who think that if I were only healthy and properly indoctrinated I'd be a rabble-rousing activist, or unkinked, or a high-powered executive, or bisexual, or Christian, or whatever else they fancy someone like me would only be if I accepted the Truth...
...I find myself thinking back to this petulant guy on a newsgroup who mostly came across as really wanting me to accept his belief that there was something wrong with me so that I would fuck him.